CFE: Can’t Fail Enough
Sometimes I just wish I could get to the end result. Cut corners and live the life I want to now. It doesn’t work like that. I fail and fail, one day I’ll be ready.
I watched a Yes Theory video today. Low on motivation to do work. I have a lot of reading to catch up on and I tend to procrastinate on YouTube.
One quote from the end of the video got me. A lot more than these sorts of things tend to normally. Some days they impact you and others they really don’t.
“It doesn’t matter if you get told no 1000 times, it’s the 1 yes that counts”
When I stop somewhere picturesque, I picture a life where I want to be. I sometimes don’t know what that looks like. I just know the impact I want to have. I also concentrate a lot on my failures rather than my successes.
It’s with this quote that I took a step back. I should focus on failing more often.
Not going with the mindset that I’m going to fail of course, but one where failing shouldn’t be bad but rather good.
If I look at the times where I’ve failed, it came 360 and worked out for the best.
Failing to get AAA in A Levels to go to QMUL instead of UCL — no study abroad (maybe) and not met the same friends as I have now.
Failing to break through as a childhood golf star — more time to focus on academics, won these trophies years later.
Failing to get into Guardian or Economist internship — got an internship at a company that focuses on issues that I actually study and engage with on a weekly basis.
I have a habit of failing hard but also succeeding equally as much.
People try to say they only see others successes. It’s true, people don’t like to show their failures. That’s why people don’t post on their social media when they think look bad.
Not being perfect in today’s society is not worth people’s time. Wrong.
Fail more. It’s something we all need to do and love. The harder the fail, the sweeter the success.
I speak from experience when I say that failing can only be good for you in the long run.
You will it all the time that you should learn from failure. But you’re not told how. Here’s how. Listen up, I’ll only say this once.
Be vulnerable. Laugh and love.
Three simple things that we tend to forget.
Vulnerability, admitting you’re wrong. You don’t admit to appease the person you’re apologising to instead you do it show courage. You want to feel like you can climb a mountain or run a marathon with no training.
Laughing. Above is a mid-movement shot. Completely candid. But I share it because it shows my point. I can’t pose for pictures because I feel awkward, often I ruin pictures because I had no idea how to act.
Do I care? Look at my face, clearly not. I laugh, make jokes and make others around me laugh because I don’t take myself seriously.
When it matters I do. But I don’t need validation from others to tell me that I’m doing well. I do everything for me. My future.
Love. If you don’t love what you do, are you actually happy? I might not quite love myself yet but I’m getting there. And most importantly if you don’t love your life, why? Change it so you can embrace everything and everyone around you. If you can’t change it straight away, plan a way to break free sooner rather than later.
I was talking with Alex S today again. After a short forty-mile round trip round Kent and Surrey, I turned to him and said:
“I’m here to live my own life. I don’t want to sit here and live someone else’s life, what’s the point?”
I fail because I want to grow. I fail because I know it’s inevitable. Avoiding failure is like trying to avoid death.
Unless you have a cryogenic freezer and multi-million pound technology, it’s not happening.
Fail more. Embrace failing and most importantly accept failure.
I can’t wait to fail soon to enjoy success soon after.