SSFT: Stop Searching For Truth
As humans we tend to fight until our last breath to prove theories. On a personal level, it’s futile and will only leave you chasing your tail. Why?
I don’t know how to put this lightly but there’s something quite stark that we all need to realise and realise quick.
My family and probably yours have evolved, matured and got on with life despite all the trials and tribulations.
Most of my cousins are married and have children. Asghar recently got engaged and it will be the last wedding before Khadija and I have our respective weddings sometime in the future.
I watched my family grow and meet new people. I watched relationships form and prosper. I might find it hard myself but I’ve had that third-person perspective.
I love my family very much. I hardly see them anymore. My relationship with Pakistan is complicated. I have a desire to help in a humanitarian fashion but feel useless before such time.
There’s a lot about my family that I would have liked to know. I would’ve liked to meet my grandfather instead of hearing stories of the great man he was. I hold his first name as my middle but I don’t know how much of an impact he made to his community nor our family on a personal level.
I’d like to know my family’s origin. I’d like to see where my family grows to and how it evolved. I’d like to think the generation after me is going to have a role in rescuing Pakistan from global stigmatism and stereotypes.
I also know that if I try and continue to search for the answers about my family that I’ll let someone live my life. That’s something I can’t let happen. Not for my family but for myself.
I’ve done a blog post in the past about filtered reality. I’ve advocated for the fact that the truth is socially constructed. People have a perception that truth is objective. Truth couldn’t be more subjective. There are two sides to a coin as well as a story.
I did an Instagram campaign to advocate and build press for the MExU Project in November 2017. This is a picture from that very campaign. What is surprising looking back, I can’t tell myself if this is filtered or not.
As a millennial, I’m so used to believing what I see. Taking it as truth. When it could all be perfectly concocted lies. The grainy image makes you believe it’s filtered but maybe that’s the quality of the image. Who knows? I don’t and I took that picture.
The point of the campaign was to raise awareness to the dangers of filtering reality.
The world has a problem. Well it has many. One is that we’re told that we should chase dreams. Most people aren’t tough enough to do that. That’s what all the key influencers say anyway. I’d like to think that we are tough enough but are we willing enough?
That’s a question only you can answer.
I’ve realised all the wrong that has happened in my life, whether it involved people or not — the only truth is the story I tell.
Facts are useful to quantify and make something more believable, but the only convincing you need as a human is being able to trust yourself.
I trust too many people. I like to stay vulnerable. I don’t really care what people say. If I did, I would stop this. Of course I get criticism, people don’t agree with what I say but I never question it.
They question what I say as truth. They should. This is truth to me. No-one else.
I don’t chase the truth… not anymore. I’m done with that. I’ve got better things to do.
My family mean the world to me. The deep-rooted truths that I don’t know will remain as such. I don’t have the time nor energy to live my life waiting for something to happen.
We make our own future after all…