Stop Tripping Yourself Up
We’re all like tall giraffes with no understanding of how to put one foot after the other. We aren’t patient. It’s nonsense. Stopping tripping yourself up.
‘The process doesn’t happen automatically, it requires a trigger. The trigger requires an action. The action requires a motive. The whole cycle is laborious but necessary. Just like policy, your life will not form itself from nothing just like that. Be patient.’
They tend to say:
‘Things will get worse before they get better’
As cliche as it may be, it’s true for all facets of life — even your personal one.
Mental health, career — it all goes to pot before it becomes anything meaningful.
You have to do the awful tasks that someone of your socioeconomic band would never think about doing to realise what you want to do.
I think back to when I watched an obscene amount of TV and The Big Bang Theory was my favourite show.
Sheldon (the main and rather eccentric character) decided to bust tables while he struggled over a difficult particularity in his research. He played a physicist at a Californian university. He said that he needed to do something menial which had a lot of thinking time, away from anything related to his research, to fix the problem.
The same applies here.
You have to be willing to survive under lesser circumstances to be able to reach further above.
This links to what I want to talk about loosely.
I think (know) that we like to complain about our position. We could always be further ahead.
We could always do better (victim of this myself, third blog in this series was names ‘Could Have Done Better’).
We could be more than what we are, forgetting what we always have.
Then, the worst part, we have the audacity to say we want things sooner rather than later.
That’s the entitlement bellowing up.
The fact that we received things quickly doesn’t mean that life will serve itself on a platter.
We have to better at predictions.
We have to plan the infrastructure for schools, hospitals.
Saying that we want it at the click of a button won’t solve our problems.
It’s a knee-jerk response in aid of avoiding the wider issue.
No-one wants to admit the structural problems that we have in the system that perpetuate these issues.
The same applies to your personal life and career.
The reason I’m so particular about plans is because I understand that life is unexpected. I understand the suspected turbulence. It’s part of human nature and the diversity of life.
With a plan of how to make an income, the skills to do so — I’ll always find a way to get by. Might not live lavishly, but I’ll have the work ethic and mindset to drill through.
We trip ourselves up, time and time again, by thinking we’re moving too slowly or thinking that we’re doing ill of the world.
We think our minute influence means gospel and when we realise it means less than expected — our satisfaction levels plummet.
It’s a problem of the generation.
The entitlement has created this sense of property and ease of access which might not always be available.
It makes sense that we often complain about healthcare and education in the UK, where it fails — the truth is that in other societies there isn’t anything close to the standard in the UK.
It’s merely a mindset shift to realising that it’s not all over when its over.
It’s actually just the beginning.
Society doesn’t expect you to dust off and rise from the ashes like a phoneix.
It expects you to become another number in the system.
Society really doesn’t care about you until you give it reason to take note.
Societal shifts are not caused every day. They happen in decades or generations.
A few people find a unique insight which changes the thoughts and leadership of such generation.
That’s how we moved past oppressive times and into more progressive realms.
We blame ourselves way too often for mistakes. Actually we are to blame our environment.
The blame is equally shared on everyone that contributes to this ideology in the environment and emits those sentiments.
It’s not something that can be helped.
When I spoke to an older gentleman about entitlement in Fort Worth, he blamed himself for his kids growing up entitled.
I told him to blame the inevitably of the environment that kids are growing up into these days.
Instead of worrying about what he could’ve done differently, I prompted him to encourage his kids to follow their passions and continue to be supportive.
This ethos of blame is crippling generations.
Mistakes happen but blaming emotional structuring on yourself over the environment (where the environment plays a strong role and no other internal factors are at play) is stupidity at its finest level.
This generation will soon realise that its capabilities supersede those of past because they’re growing up under technologically-advanced and pressurised challenges.
Everything takes time.
We have it. More than generations before us.
We use it more efficiently than any generation past.
Take it easy on yourself, everyone is going through the same struggles.
Stop tripping yourself up.